Tuesday, April 28, 2009

What I learned this week...


You can check out more of What I learned posts over at JoLynn's Musings of a housewife.


I'm kind of winging it this week because I don't have anything jumping out at me but let's see what I can come up with.


It's probably better if I don't drink my favorite Starbucks drink during the kids Football games because the caffeine might make me get a little mouthy, and Mark may have to shush me :0. Have you noticed watching my kids play football seems to bring out the worst in me? In my defense, the league we are playing in did not do a very good job with the teams this year. I fondly call Connor's team "The Replacements". Have you ever seen that movie. It's where the real players go on strike and they find "replacements". It's kind of a hodge podge of players but they eventually learn to work together. Anyway Con's team only has 2 other teams to play against and one you saw in the video yesterday. are middle schoolers and they have played both flag and tackle together, so it's really lopsided. Alex is the youngest and smallest on his team.. he's used to being the smallest but surely there was a team of 8 yrs olds they could have put him on. Anyway he's doing fine but would probably have more fun if the other boys were closer to his age. I'm almost done, just hang in there with me.

What's the deal with these coaches that have sons on the team (99% of them do) which makes perfect sense but when you are playing in a rec league, why do they always (in my experience) show favoritism in playing their kids more and any position they want even though he may not be the best?
I know I sound like one of those whiny Moms and usually I really do just "pull up my big girl panties" (as Mom would say) and hang in there. I do know that team sports can be good for kids and they learn a lot about working with others but the mentality of some parents and coaches is just something I have a hard time swallowing.

Anyway, what I learned this week is that if sports are what the boys are passionate about right now, I will do my best to hang in there with them. I will give them the information I have as far as the ups and downs and realities as I see it, but let them make the choice for now.


In the meantime I will secretly hope they follow their other passions such as.. Alex and his music, and Connor with his geology and paleontology. It would be much easier on this mommy's heart :)

11 comments:

Wendy said...

I do not envy moms of boys when the boys start playing things like football or hockey. How do you fight the urge to go out there whenever your kiddo is knocked down and/or hurt?

Hillcrest Cottage said...

***No*** to coaches with sons on the team. We had a coach this past season with TWO on the team which caused my son much heartache....

The Bailey Family said...

Oh Bonnie...I think you're doing the right thing...hang in there.

Life with Kaishon said...

It's a good thing that Kaishon isn't too terribly into sports because you know I would be SUPER mouthy at games. I just know it!

Amy Platon said...

I've found that county leagues are really competitive (Not sure why I think the coaches get bragging rights within the community or something) but we've found the YMCA to be the best sporting experience for us, and now that's all we do! It's tough though.

jen@odbt said...

I've been told by my husband to be quiet on the sidelines. He does coach our son and daughter's teams and I'm proud to say that he's not that kind of coach. Then again they're not at that competitive age yet.

Jenni Jiggety said...

I wish I had a little football or baseball player! Neither of my boys has any interest! I would so love to be that screaming mom on the sidelines...

Terra said...

I am SO MOUTHY and no one can shut me up...they have tried.

Terra said...

ROCK IT GRAMS! I had tears, giggles and cheers!

Lindsay said...

hehe like Terra I am mouthy as well ;-) I don't really look forward to being the one in the stands but man I loved playing sports growing up!

Musings of a Housewife said...

These comments are great. The sports thing - ARGH! My husband is an assistant coach on my son's baseball team. I know he thinks the head coach favors his son somewhat, but overall is quite fair.

I haven't made it to a game yet this year. Hopefully this weekend! I don't get too mouthy (lol) but I do enjoy cheering them on.